Its soooooo confusing sometimes!
Do I answer to people who have no profile photo or not?
Is it a case of me wanting to be attracted to them before responding? or is it that I'm worried they're hiding something?
I really hate judging books by their covers because sometimes those covers are concealing lots of delightful "chap"ters lol!
We all put our trust in this "site" for certain safety & security, but then its up to us to trust what we see on "sight"
Its soooooo confusing sometimes!
Do I answer to people who have no profile photo or not?
Is it a case of me wanting to be attracted to them before responding? or is it that I'm worried they're hiding something?
I really hate judging books by their covers because sometimes those covers are concealing lots of delightful "chap"ters lol!
We all put our trust in this "site" for certain safety & security, but then its up to us to trust what we see on "sight"
Does anyone else "SEE" what I'm getting at? less...
When my profile was up it said do not contact me if you do not have a photo posted. There was one guy that contacted and offered to send a photo but I said no it had to be posted. Too many married guys who were scared to post a photo.
Personally, I preferred not to see a picture. I preferred to get to know a man first through chatting on-line. Knowing myself, I was afraid that the picture would most likely sway my decision to chat with him. This statement has a shred of shallowness to it, but I know that the possibility of judging him by his pic would be there.
After saying all that, I also understand that not having a pic will draw suspicion. And I am sure that most people who use this site know this by now. Why th more...
Personally, I preferred not to see a picture. I preferred to get to know a man first through chatting on-line. Knowing myself, I was afraid that the picture would most likely sway my decision to chat with him. This statement has a shred of shallowness to it, but I know that the possibility of judging him by his pic would be there.
After saying all that, I also understand that not having a pic will draw suspicion. And I am sure that most people who use this site know this by now. Why they don't do it, is strange to me.
Your best bet might be to go with your gut feeling. I feel that if you have to compromise your feelings just to respond to a wink, then things are most likely starting off on the wrong foot anyway.
Thank you all for the feedback:)
Spose its a bit like window shopping in a way.....& if i couldn't see it then I probably wouldn't buy it lol....
so after I've unhooked myself(?) I'm off for some on site retail therapy xxxx
Hey Sparkles,
I would respond if they dont have a photo, but not if there is no profile. If they have not even bothered to spend some time on the profile (their own words) then they are not worth your effort.
You could always ask them to send you a photo or two, and if they dont, then stop the chat.
I think there has to be some physical attraction going on to want to take it to a further level, and I too, feel like they are hiding something.
I responded to a guy with no photo. I happen to agree with you, the book cover is not representative of the contents.
I like to read the profiles - if one strikes me fancy I'll wink or email depending on how I feel about the profile. After reading a zillion of them you get a "feel" for them. Finding someone to a tedious job,but would you have it any other way? Its a major deal in life, working hard at it is important. What say you?
I too am suspicious of those who do not post photos. I feel like they are hiding form something or someone (as in married or in a relationship. One man I met said it was because he had a "public" job. Then there are those who say ask me for my photo and will gladly send one.
In the end, there are some who post photos and don't even look like them or they are years old !
As for me, the very first guy I saw on here and started chatting with turned out to not be who he said he was. I feel in love with the picture and the person I thought I was chatting with, but it turns out that he had told those same lines to other women. The more we talked, I quickly started not liking him anymore. He started asking me to send him money and I knew then he wasn't what I was looking for. Needless to say, after some carefull research, I found a Nigerian Scam Artist website and more...
As for me, the very first guy I saw on here and started chatting with turned out to not be who he said he was. I feel in love with the picture and the person I thought I was chatting with, but it turns out that he had told those same lines to other women. The more we talked, I quickly started not liking him anymore. He started asking me to send him money and I knew then he wasn't what I was looking for. Needless to say, after some carefull research, I found a Nigerian Scam Artist website and guess who was on there...the guy that I use to like. There were so many post on there about him and all these pictures and other names that this person was using untill it was ridiculous. So, now I have to keep my guard up at all times. Simply because there are still other guys out there like this person and yes I have ran into more of them, so just be carefull and have patience. less...
