OK Honestly this is not bashing but a needed to understand.
what are you looking for in woman?
why would you tell a woman that she is your lover and best freind but not good enough for a relationship?
what is the story behind that?
Isnt a lover and best freind what most men want?
Quoting: Originally posted by tonfree WOW, strong words and hard feelings are expressed, but think about it..
If a man was honest enough and actually knew what his feelings were (knowing he could trust enough to hare them with you and not...
I'm not so sure what your saying here? lol
From my understanding of this blog, this man is enjoying the pleasures of being a lover and a "friend" but does not want a relationship with her??
Now are you saying that he may be sleeping more...
Quoting: Originally posted by tonfree WOW, strong words and hard feelings are expressed, but think about it..
If a man was honest enough and actually knew what his feelings were (knowing he could trust enough to hare them with you and not be kicked to the side) would you accept his truthful answer and still stay friends with him? That does sound one sided, because the exact same thing goes for women.
Dear, when I say these things I mean them as I have had more than a fair share of women tell me I am their best friend, but all they really want is for me to take them out and smooch them when I am in town. If I wanted company like that, then I would pay those that are in that profession for that. I expect a lot more from a friend and then some! I have no problem enjoying a woman?s company, but I would much rather have her as a friend first before anything else.
It is in every sense of the word easy for a man or a woman to lie to get what they want. I honestly think if we all stand back a little more and learn more about the person before we think we know them, we would all be in a better place. We all think we know what life is about. If we really did, then why would we (me included) be here asking and reading these blogs from others and trying to learn from them?
I'm not so sure what your saying here? lol
From my understanding of this blog, this man is enjoying the pleasures of being a lover and a "friend" but does not want a relationship with her??
Now are you saying that he may be sleeping with her so he does not lose her friendship??
Now if he considers her a best friend, he would not sleep with her if he found her unsuitable for a relationship with him. This man in my books is no friend.
I had this situation happen to me last year, and really he just wanted some no strings attached sex. Would have preferred for him to tell me this straight out, but then if he did he might not have gotten what he wanted...sex.
It is not always so easy, because as you say people are not always honest in their intentions.
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WOW, strong words and hard feelings are expressed, but think about it..
If a man was honest enough and actually knew what his feelings were (knowing he could trust enough to hare them with you and not be kicked to the side) would you accept his truthful answer and still stay friends with him? That does sound one sided, because the exact same thing goes for women.
Dear, when I say these things I mean them as I have had more than a fair share of women tell me I am their best friend, but all more...
WOW, strong words and hard feelings are expressed, but think about it..
If a man was honest enough and actually knew what his feelings were (knowing he could trust enough to hare them with you and not be kicked to the side) would you accept his truthful answer and still stay friends with him? That does sound one sided, because the exact same thing goes for women.
Dear, when I say these things I mean them as I have had more than a fair share of women tell me I am their best friend, but all they really want is for me to take them out and smooch them when I am in town. If I wanted company like that, then I would pay those that are in that profession for that. I expect a lot more from a friend and then some! I have no problem enjoying a woman?s company, but I would much rather have her as a friend first before anything else.
It is in every sense of the word easy for a man or a woman to lie to get what they want. I honestly think if we all stand back a little more and learn more about the person before we think we know them, we would all be in a better place. We all think we know what life is about. If we really did, then why would we (me included) be here asking and reading these blogs from others and trying to learn from them? less...
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I don't know what all men want but I do know what I want. But in truth this is not about what men want but what some seem to be willing to give
My observations have been the following
A woman needs a man to listen, have an opinion, but not necessarily offer advice
Women want respect. For some reason there is a segment of the web community that believes its ok to make a woman feel like a whore.
Most women need to take sometime to get to know a guy. Once they do, it usually ends up th more...
I don't know what all men want but I do know what I want. But in truth this is not about what men want but what some seem to be willing to give
My observations have been the following
A woman needs a man to listen, have an opinion, but not necessarily offer advice
Women want respect. For some reason there is a segment of the web community that believes its ok to make a woman feel like a whore.
Most women need to take sometime to get to know a guy. Once they do, it usually ends up that the woman is the one left unsatisfied, not the man.
But the most important thing I've learned is that by being true to my need to find a woman that I can truly allow into my intimate space, that happy space where I retreat to. A fellow Gardener of the space. This takes time and effort and is a journey that never ends less...
A man who says you are his lover and best friend but does not want a relationship with you is NOT in love with you. He has feelings for you and does not want to completely let go, but he's decided you are not THE ONE.
And I'll tell you a little secret. Men are afraid to commit to someone if they think you may NOT be the love of their life. They want the whole package. Just like us.
Hey, I am obviously not a man! lol! But wanted to let you know I know how you feel. Although I don't think all men are like that! The "good" ones are just more difficult to find..but I am sure there are some lying around here somewhere...I do not think men actually know the answer themselves. Mainly because they think completely differently to us women. Example...most women would consider kissing someone else cheating (I mean passionately not on the cheeks as a friend!), men on the oth more...
Hey, I am obviously not a man! lol! But wanted to let you know I know how you feel. Although I don't think all men are like that! The "good" ones are just more difficult to find..but I am sure there are some lying around here somewhere...I do not think men actually know the answer themselves. Mainly because they think completely differently to us women. Example...most women would consider kissing someone else cheating (I mean passionately not on the cheeks as a friend!), men on the other hand would only consider it cheating if you actually had intercourse (and even some say that its not unless it has passion in it...the old excuse. Though I do know some women who think like this, the majority is male!
My point is basically in a woman eyes they are guilty and in their eyes, they are completely innocent! less...
