Is it so hard to keep someone interested in me? Like, seriously.. they'd come to me like a fly on food, but after awhile, we tend to part ways?..

We'd be good and talk and talk, but all the sudden, there is a lack of communication from either of the sides.

Does anybody know why this happens?

Probably, it's life, right? :)

People are like cats. They're finicky. Once a person has gained enough information about a prospective romantic interest, they tend to make a judgement call. Slight nuances in behavior and their reactions to those nuances are how they predict a relationship's worth. For instance, if (in the DISTANT future...) I met someone I decided to persue romantically, and later on I found out that this person had cheated, EVER, while in a committed relationship, I would SO dump him. Or, if he kept his   more...

People are like cats. They're finicky. Once a person has gained enough information about a prospective romantic interest, they tend to make a judgement call. Slight nuances in behavior and their reactions to those nuances are how they predict a relationship's worth. For instance, if (in the DISTANT future...) I met someone I decided to persue romantically, and later on I found out that this person had cheated, EVER, while in a committed relationship, I would SO dump him. Or, if he kept his home dirty. Or worked too many hours at the office/home office...I could go on and on. These are things I simply cannot bear. It is likely then, that a man would do the very same thing to me, or any woman he percieves to be a prospective romantic interest. Perhaps he doesn't like that I didn't deveolp my career first in life. Or that I made some of the familial choices that I have made in life. Or maybe that convicted felon in my family tree just wasn't what he imagined (just kidding!).

All in all, in a situation like this, where we do not really get to know someone and the people we chat with drift in and out of the field of vision so quickly, it is not very likely that any one bahvaior drives them away. It's a pot luck. It is not likely that we will get to know these "drifters" well enough to find out what it was about us that they didn't like. In fact, I (for one) don't really care to know. I already know what I don't like about myself. Why on God's Green Earth would I care to know why someone else doesn't like me? Why would you?

After a 15 year marraige and the upheaval of what I thought was my life, there is one thing that I am now certain of: All of this: this dating, this getting-to-know-you, this email me, wink you, chat here and hope to meet there? All of that? NONE of it is certain. All of it is unpredictable. All of it is ever changing because it is the unknown. The people we talk with are the unknown. They are the "x" factor in the equation we are trying to solve. And you know what? "X" can be ANY number. You don't know the solution, til you plug in the number and see if it works.

Try not to analyze things so much. Don't ask so many "why's". Just enjoy the lecture, and take lots of notes. In the end, you'll ACE the final! Good luck!--True less...

Quoting: Originally posted by caughtoffguard Is it so hard to keep someone interested in me? Like, seriously.. they'd come to me like a fly on food, but after awhile, we tend to part ways?.. We'd be good and talk and talk, but all the sudden, there is a lack of communication from either of the sides. Does anybody know why this happens? Probably, it's life, right? :)

Perhaps your 'friendship' has gone as far as it can?
Perhaps your friend is thinking, the next stage of THIS   more...

Quoting: Originally posted by caughtoffguard Is it so hard to keep someone interested in me? Like, seriously.. they'd come to me like a fly on food, but after awhile, we tend to part ways?.. We'd be good and talk and talk, but all the sudden, there is a lack of communication from either of the sides. Does anybody know why this happens? Probably, it's life, right? :)

Perhaps your 'friendship' has gone as far as it can?
Perhaps your friend is thinking, the next stage of THIS friendship is a relationship? So he 'backs off' a little?
I know i've felt this way before, every time we hooked up it was fun. But then i think, if we carry on having this kind of fun,then the friendship, MIGHT, turn into a 'romance'...just a thought. less...

sweetie i wish i knew the answer to that one lol... every womans question =] u can b my friend (( im not gay )) just saying if you need some one to talk to im here =D